The stalker

As I write this, I feel darn insulted because apart from having a hectic day, I have realized that I have a more serious stalker than I would have imagined. To make it worse, I do not seem to remember ever meeting him anywhere.

Just a few days ago when I was jogging around the main campus football pitch a certain guy approached me. I thought it was someone who wanted a jogging partner so I didn’t even listen to what he was saying, I simply told him we can jog together and I didn’t mind. Being a pathetic listener, I didn’t pay much attention until he said something about Rose. You wonder why that caught my attention, well, Rose is my usual partner in jogging because I am too lazy to jog alone.
‘ what bout Rose??’ I ask.
‘ oh, you were not listening,’ he says getting annoyed and I wonder what I missed. He then goes ahead to say how he likes me and knows that I am good girl who he can take to his mother. Don’t take me wrong, being girl, that should be a compliment but I laugh out loud and that sets the guy off. He clearly has issues if he thinks he can take me to his mum. My friends say I will need a special guy sent for me because honestly I am spoiled, rude and utterly sarcastic. Not to mention that i like having my own way.

This guy though doesn’t understand why I am laughing and he goes ahead to say the many times he has watched me play. Now this is shocking not only because I  haven’t ever seen him but because he knows I play badminton and tennis which aren’t played in the same pitch. He knows I jog with Rose and he knows when I wasn’t in the field. He knows there were days I just went to watch my friends play tennis and when I went jogging with someone else apart from Rose. Surprisingly, he knows that I have a guy friend in the American football team who I have only spoken to twice.

When he is done talking, it is me who is worried. I want to go away from the field and not meet him again. When he finally says he saw me on a Sunday morning coming from another campus, I am sure I have a stalker in my hands. I only went to that campus once and I remember walking alone early in the morning towards central police and the way was clear. I saw nobody.

When this guy asks for my number, I hurriedly give it to him and walk away. I simply quit jogging and last week when I tried to resume guess who I first bumped into at the tennis pitch..

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26 Replies to “The stalker”

  1. Winnie, if this is all so about this stalker, you need to worry. Please report him to someone. They can’t do anything about it because he hasn’t done any thing to you. But you should be very concerned and someone should know. I think you worry too much about sex. Let it go. Avoid those guys who say sexual comments to you. Don’t answer them or acknowledge them in any way. If you are at work, report them to a manager. You should not have to put up with it. Please don’t walk alone, don’t jog alone and have a friend that wants to partner with you for your outdoor activities. As for sex, someday you will meet a man who is of interest to you. At that time, talk to a dear friend, or a pastor of the church, someone you can trust. Until then understand that yes you should be careful how you walk, how you dress and the things you say. and when the time is right you will know what to do. And be very aware of the man you look to. Know his ideas about life, know about his family, and job. Know his thoughts on children. Know everything you can know about him before you commit to any kind of relationship. I am a mom and a grandma. I raised five girls and helped raise another one because her mother died when she was 15. She is still like one of my own and she is in her 40’s. She calls me mom. I also took in a foster girl on my own because she had nowhere to go. I kept her for quite some time and then finally worked out getting her back to her grandmother in another state, all the while trying to keep her safe from someone who had abused her. I know of what I talk to you about and I am taking you seriously and I hope you will take me seriously, please. I am praying for your safety. As a mom and a grand mom, I worry for you so please try to be safe. You must do that for yourself.
    from a grandma who cares

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    1. Thank you so much..
      Most times here men are just ignorant, stupid and will keep going. I have reported a few and watched them laid off. I watch what I wear when am not working, but when am working am confined to uniform which really shows all my African curves..
      You really have done great work raising those girls and looking out for them. Thanks for the advice. I promise I will look for a jogging partner and worry less. Much blessings to you. ❀

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